While the thought of getting married to the man of your dreams makes your heart skip a beat, unfortunately for soon-to-be military brides like you, marriage doesn’t come with a manual.
Marrying a soldier means you have to deal with the military, too. It’s much more complicated than marrying a typical civilian. You might think you know what to expect, but you only really know so much until reality kicks in.
Soldiers put their duties first, and their marriages second—as a military wife, you have to accept that. Most couples put their marriages above all else, but in your case, you need a lot of patience. Even if you are pregnant with your first child, expect that the military will not arrange his flight schedule just for your pregnancy.
Some plans and promises need to be broken – even birthdays and anniversaries. It’s difficult to deal with, and it’s inevitable—but you have to learn to accept the things that come with marrying someone extraordinary like him.
Enjoy the Resources
The good news is that marrying a military man comes with a lot of perks, and many people don’t take advantage of them. There are gyms on base that you don’t have to pay for, and many of them even offer yoga and Zumba classes—things that other people would normally pay for in other gyms. Some companies even offer home loans for veterans, those who have served, and are still serving in the military.
Spouses of veterans can also apply for home loan eligibility.
Prepare for the Worst
Of course, you don’t want to think about the possibility of losing your husband, but it’s best to prepare for the worst. Most people see their husbands return home from deployment, but there’s no guarantee.
Remember that unlike civilian professions, serving in the military is a special duty—he will come face to face with real danger, and you have to come to terms with that.
They say behind a strong man is a strong woman—it’s important to support him and stand by him all the way.